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Q&A: What You Can Do if You’re Worried About “Incompetence”

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Aging Farmer

Q: My 87-year-old father lives alone. His house has become increasingly dirty, but he refuses to get help, even though I’m sure he needs it. I’m worried that he’s becoming incompetent and in need of elder care, but he doesn’t want to go see the doctor. What can I do?

A: This situation does come up a fair bit with aging parents and relatives. I’m sorry to say there usually are no easy solutions. But there definitely are  things you can and should do, and it’s better to act sooner rather than later.

Let’s review what you can do. I’ll also explain what I’ve learned about “incompetence” over the years, and how doctors usually play a role in the evaluation of such older adults.

Then, I’ll share some thoughts on how older people and families can plan ahead, to avoid facing this kind of dilemma. And then last but not least, I share a few thoughts on taking care of yourself as you go through this.

The usual concern, for a person of this age, is that the person may have developed memory loss, or a dementia such as Alzheimer’s disease.

This is a pretty reasonable worry, since an estimated 30% of people aged 85+ have dementia. (Wondering about dementia vs Alzheimer’s? Here’s where I explain dementia and how it’s related to Alzheimer’s.)

And of course, if your older parent seems to be doing worse than before, when it comes to activities that require mental organization (such as keeping a house reasonably clean), that further increases the chance that some kind of brain deterioration is causing problems.

But, we should never start by jumping to the conclusion that someone has developed dementia and needs elder care.

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Filed Under: Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles, Managing relationships, Q&A Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, alzheimer's, dementia

How to Avoid Problems Due to Aging Incapacity: The (Better) Durable General Power of Attorney

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Power of attorney

One of the most common concerns I hear from people is “My older parent’s behavior is concerning me and I’m worried about her mental abilities.”

As I explained in a related article: it’s not always dementia but often it is. And unless an older person has done a good job planning ahead, it can be very hard and messy for others to intervene as needed.

But hopefully, that’s not yet your situation.

In which case, you might be wondering: Given that it’s so common for aging adults to eventually start slipping mentally — or to be suddenly disabled due to an accident or serious health crisis — what kind of planning should older adults and families do to avoid this kind of situation?

I’ve done some research on this question, and here’s what I found out.

One of the simplest — and often less expensive — smart planning approaches is for an older adult to complete a general durable power of attorney (POA) document.

Especially if the powers granted are broad — which they often are — a POA can enable the designated person (known as the “agent”) to step in and assist with finances, housing, safety, and anything else covered by the POA .

A durable POA allows an agent to take action once the older person is “incapacitated.” In California, such POAs can be used to move a person with dementia to a different living arrangement.

Now, the durable power of attorney approach isn’t perfect. Over the years, I’ve noticed that two broad categories of problems come up:

  • Concerns as to whether the agent might be using the POA to financially exploit the situation
  • Issues related to determining incapacity and whether the older person should be overridden.

In truth, I have occasionally encountered situations in which different doctors had different opinions on whether an older person was incapacitated. This troubles me, because agents should really only be stepping in and overriding older adults if we’re all sure they’ve lost capacity and are making decisions that don’t serve their overall goals, or are hazardous to others.

Still, a general durable POA is an excellent approach to consider. But I would recommend you pay special attention to how the document is drafted, in order to reduce the risk of financial exploitation and to avoid pitfalls related to determining incapacity.

In this post, I will share:

  • What I’ve learned about general durable power of attorney documents
  • Why determining incapacitation is often problematic in the real world
  • Tips on avoiding a common POA weakness
  • What to know about including third-party accounting and other strategies recommended by the American Bar Association, to reduce the risk of financial exploitation by an agent
  • Useful resources I’ve found online for more information

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, legal, planning ahead

Addressing Medical, Legal, & Financial Advance Care Planning:
The Healthy Aging Checklist Part 6

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Power of attorney

This is the sixth and final post covering the Healthy Aging Checklist, a set of six core activities that will help any older adult maintain the best possible health while aging.

They are:

  • Promote brain health and emotional well-being.
  • Promote physical health.
  • Check for and address common aging health problems (such as falls, memory concerns, depression, incontinence, pain, isolation, polypharmacy).
  • Learn to optimize the management of any chronic conditions.
  • Get recommended preventive health services for older adults.
  • Address medical, legal, and financial advance care planning.

In this post, I’ll address the last item on the list: advance planning for medical, legal, and financial issues. This includes power of attorney documents, plus much more.

This is a big topic, and it’s not possible to cover everything you could or should do in a single article. You would need a book for that — I suggest three down below — plus it’s best to work with qualified professionals (healthcare providers, eldercare attorneys, and financial planners) before completing any legally binding paperwork.

But every day as I work, I see older adults and families whose health and well-being is being affected by the consequences of their planning — or lack of planning, as the case often is.

So in this post, I will share some practical information that should make it easier for you to address planning that covers some common age-related challenges:

  • The three key steps involved in all advance planning for aging
  • 5 common problems every older adult and family should consider planning for
  • 5 key steps for advanced planning in healthcare, and where to get a good free medical power of attorney (POA)
  • 4 key steps for advance planning for legal and financial issues, and what to know about general POAs
  • Tips for adult children, including what to do if you’re concerned about mental capacity or undue influence

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, dementia, healthy aging, power of attorney

POLST: Resources & Tips on Avoiding Pitfalls

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

California POLST page 1

In this post —  the last in a 4-part series on better planning for health crises and end-of-life care — I want to tell you about a document that I wish more families knew about: POLST.

POLST (which stands for Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment) is a legal document meant to tell healthcare professionals what you want done, in the event of a medical emergency. It’s kind of like a pre-hospital DNR (do-not-resuscitate), but much much better. (For starters, you don’t have to be DNR to use a POLST form.)

Note that POLST is not an advance directive, although when doctors ask if there is an advance directive, they are often thinking of POLST as well. (Because what they are really asking is, is there any pre-existing documentation that can help us understand what we should and shouldn’t do?)

And it’s not a perfect approach to making sure older adults get the care they want and need, when a health crisis hits. If you have heard of POLST, you may very well have heard some negative things; I’ve certainly heard some complaints over the years about POLST forms, or about how something didn’t quite work out despite the presence of a POLST.

Still, I really like POLST, and discuss POLST forms with many of the older adults and families that I work with. In California, POLST has largely replaced the pre-hospital DNR forms that some older adults used to have.

Furthermore, a study published in 2014 confirmed that in Oregon, where the POLST approach was first pioneered, POLST forms have helped get end-of-life wishes honored more often. (The New Old Age Blog published a related post recently, titled “When Advance Directives Are Ignored.”)

If you’re caring for a frail older person and you live in one of the many states with a POLST program — click here to find out if your state has POLST — I highly recommend you incorporate this tool into your loved one’s advance care planning. In most cases, a surrogate medical decision-maker can complete a POLST form.

In this post, I’ll share some resources on learning to use POLST to better plan for health crises and end-of-life care.

I’ll also offer some tips on avoiding common pitfalls, such as completing POLST without first addressing the learning and conversing parts of advance care planning.

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, end-of-life care

5 Tips to Help You With End-of-Life Planning

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Balancing Scale

Living wills. Advance directives. Powers of attorney for healthcare. Making your wishes known.

Many older adults have never gotten around to addressing these issues.

Others are overdue for a review. After all, this is not something where you should “set-it-and-forget-it.” Especially not if you completed the paperwork with a lawyer years ago, and have experienced changes in your health since then.

In previous posts on this site, I’ve shared two true stories about older adults facing health crises, and possible end-of-life situations. (See here and here.)

In both situations, the older person and his/her family had to weigh their options. We also helped them consider the benefits versus the burdens of the choices available.

It is these kinds of situations that advance care planning is supposed to help us — patient, family, healthcare providers — prepare for.

But I know that many older people haven’t gotten around to completing — or revising — their advance care planning. Which is a shame, since this will make it harder for their family and doctors to provide the right help if a medical emergency arises.

So in this article, I’ll try to make this process easier for you and your family. Here’s what we’ll cover:

  • What is advance care planning,
  • The four key steps that should always be part of advance care planning,
  • Five tips to help you — or your older parent — address advance care planning.

I’ll also tell you about some of my favorite resources available to help seniors with all of this. These can really make it easier for older adults to sort out what they want, and have the necessary conversations with others.

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, end-of-life care, Healthcare

Tools to Help with End-of-Life Planning

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Yesterday I did a webinar with Family Caregiver Alliance, on end-of-life issues for dementia caregivers.

(4/10/14: I have just uploaded this powerpoint to Slideshare, so you can see my slides here.)

As you can imagine, this is a big topic that can’t be covered comprehensively in an hour.

So, I focused the talk mainly on something that I often find myself wishing families had spent more time on: advance care planning. Specifically, I talked about how individuals and families can approach planning for future medical care, in the context of a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia.

Why? Because in my own experience, the last stage of life for a person with dementia is often strongly influenced by what kind of planning did — or didn’t — happen earlier on.

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles, Useful Links Tagged With: Advance Care Planning, end-of-life care

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