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8 Behaviors to Take Note of if You Think Someone Might Have Alzheimer’s

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH 11 Comments

Have you been worried about an older person’s memory or thinking skills? If so, you’ve probably found yourself wondering if this could be Alzheimer’s, or another dementia.

What to do next? If you look online or ask people, the advice is generally this: tell the doctor.

This advice isn’t wrong, but it’s incomplete. Yes, you should tell the doctor. But you’ll dramatically improve your chances of getting to the bottom of things if you come to the doctor with useful information on what you’ve observed.

In fact, research has found that interviewing family members about the presence or absence of eight particular behaviors can be just as effective, when it comes to detecting possible Alzheimer’s, as certain office-based cognitive tests.

8 Alzheimer’s Behaviors to Track

For each of these behaviors, try to make note of the following:

  • Whether there’s been a decline or change compared to the way your parent used to be
  • Whether this seems to be due to memory and thinking, versus physical limitations such as pain, shortness of breath or physical disabilities
  • When you – or another person – first noticed problems, and what you observed
  • What kinds of problems you see your parent having now

If you don’t notice a problem in any of the following eight areas, make a note of this. (E.g., “No such problem noted.”) That way you’ll know you didn’t just forget to consider that behavior.

Have you noticed:

  1. Signs of poor judgment? This means behaviors or situations that suggest bad decisions. Examples include worrisome spending, or not noticing a safety issue others are concerned about.
  2. Reduced Interest in Leisure Activities? This means being less interested and involved in one’s usual favorite hobbies and activities. You should especially pay attention if there isn’t a physical health issue interfering with doing the activity.
  3. Repeating Oneself? Has your parent started repeating questions or stories more than he used to?
  4. Difficulty Learning to Use Something New? Common examples include having trouble with a new kitchen appliance or gadget. This can be a tricky one to decide on, given that gadgets become more complicated every year. But if you’ve noticed anything, jot it down.
  5. Forgetting the Year or Month? Especially once one stops working, it can be easy to lose track of the date or day of the week. But if you notice your parent forgetting the year or month, make a note of this.
  6. Difficulty Managing Money and Finances? Common examples include having trouble paying bills on time, struggling to balance the checkbook, or otherwise having more difficulty than one used to have managing finances.
  7. Problems with Appointments and Commitments? If you’ve noticed that your parent is having more trouble keeping track of appointments and plans, make note of this.
  8. Daily Struggles with Memory or Thinking? It’s normal for older adults to take a little longer to remember things, since many brain functions do slow a bit with aging. But it seems that your parent often can’t remember things that happened, or otherwise seems to be more confused with thinking, make note of this.

For more on diagnosing Alzheimer’s and other dementias

If you’re worried that your older relative might have dementia, I recommend you learn more here:

How We Diagnose Dementia: The Practical Basics to Know

My book, “When Your Aging Parent Needs Help”, also comes with worksheets to help you check for signs of dementia, a handy checklist of what information to bring to the doctors, and more.
Remember, being proactive usually leads to better results and less stress overall!


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Comments

  1. JP Adams says

    January 29, 2015 at 2:20 PM

    I particularly like this approach because it emphasizes empowering the caregiver or family member. Arriving at your doctor’s office with specific information and helpful hypothesis is a great approach. Thanks!

    Reply
  2. JMP says

    November 15, 2019 at 10:43 AM

    My mil I believe has Altzheimers Disease and LBD set in. The other relatives who sponsored her here from another country, dismiss the possibility of any type of neurological disorder. When she is checked out, it will be for medical assessment not mental assessment. All of the Medical tests come out normal, so they She is fine. They won’t do a mental assessment. This is wrong. I have no control over her mental needs. If I ask for help they either ignore me or yell at me saying I am complaining. Her ins would cover the proper mental treatment that could effect her medically in the future. They are doing what they think is right to do. I see no love, compassion or proper conduct. I will never forgive them. Me Nd my husband are left to “Carry The Burden.” Absence Without Heart!?

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    • Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH says

      November 15, 2019 at 4:36 PM

      Hm, well if she is having memory or thinking problems, she should have an assessment that checks for medical causes but also documents her cognitive state and addresses any abnormalities.

      If you are not in charge of what happens with her evaluation, that can be very frustrating, especially if you are being asked to take care of her.

      You could consider looking for a therapist or professional, to help you discuss this issue within the family, or at least to help you set some limits on how you will be helping. Geriatric care managers are professionals that have experience with memory issues, they can’t do the complete evaluation or diagnosis on their own, but they would at least be well positioned to back up your concerns (or to reassure you). Good luck!

      Reply
  3. Tim says

    July 15, 2020 at 6:19 PM

    Alzheimers and dementia run rampant in my family. I feel like I’m in a catch-22 situation. I’m 55. Male. I was diagnosed with bipolar II a couple of years ago after decades of depression and severe chronic insomnia. Drugs used to treat both are often associated with decreased cognitive function and memory loss. Depression and insomnia wreak havoc on the brain by themselves. So this seems like a “choose your poison” type of scenario. Do you have any advice?

    Thank you

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    • Nicole Didyk, MD says

      July 16, 2020 at 4:31 PM

      The connection between use of medications and Alzheimer’s or other causes of cognitive impairment has been studied extensively, but we still don’t have a clear picture. It seems that the effects of medications like antihistamines, benzodiazepines and anticholinergics on cognition are real, but probably mostly short term and reversible.

      Depression seems to be associated with the development of dementia, especially if the depression is recurrent, or comes on in later life. There isn’t good evidence that this is a causal relationship, and in fact late life depression could be the earliest symptom of dementia, rather than a cause of dementia.

      My advice to a middle-aged person with a mood disorder who’s concerned about dementia risk, is to strive for an active lifestyle, avoid smoking and excessive alcohol use, eat a healthy, Mediterranean style diet and manage mood symptoms as well as possible. This may include taking antidepressant mediations for many people, which is preferable to having poorly managed mental health issues that get in the way of healthy habits.

      Reply
  4. Patricia says

    January 10, 2021 at 11:14 AM

    I live with a 75 year old man I am 62 .and the day to day situations are beyond ridiculous, hes paranoid verbally abusive,rude ,expects me to do everything for him but treats me bad ,I am spent and will probably leave to get my own place in June, he has two sisters who do nothing for him but steal his money,

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    • Nicole Didyk, MD says

      January 13, 2021 at 7:57 AM

      I’m sorry to hear about your partner. If you think he is living with dementia, an evaluation by a medical professional might be helpful. Check out this article about getting a dementia diagnosis.

      You might also be interested in this one about capacity if you think huis sisters are taking advantage of him financially. or this video about elder abuse.

      Remember to have a plan for your own safety in this situation. Thanks for reading the article and stay safe.

      Reply
  5. Donna Hall says

    January 29, 2021 at 8:10 AM

    Hello. Our brother lives in another state. He lives alone. We have noticed during the past several years that his cognitive abilities are declining. Could you give us some guidance as to how we should approach the situation? He is a proud person who wouldn’t be open to us scheduling a cognitive assessment. He is also a hoarder and values items that have not real value. We are at a loss.
    ~ His brothers and sisters

    Reply
    • Nicole Didyk, MD says

      January 29, 2021 at 4:54 PM

      It’s never easy to bring up the issue of changes in memory with a family member. This article might be helpful to learn more about how a dementia diagnosis is made.

      If your brother has a family doctor or other primary care provider, it might be a good idea to share your concerns with him or her. The doctor might not be able to share info with you, without your brother’s permission, but you can share letters or documents with them, without violating privacy legislation. You can let the provider know about the hoarding as well, although this is often a longstanding pattern and can be along and painstaking process to deal with.

      You might also want to check out Dr. Kernisan’s new book: “When Your Aging Parent Needs Help: A Geriatrician’s Step-by-Step Guide to Memory Loss, Resistance, Safety Worries, & More” . The communications strategies and steps to take to figuring out the best way to help a family member could be applied to a sibling or a parent.

      You can pre-order the book here:
      https://www.amazon.com/Aging-Parent-Needs-Step-Step/dp/173615320X/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?dchild=1&keywords=dr+leslie+kernisan&qid=1611329842&sr=8-1-fkmr0

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  6. Laurel Kunst says

    March 18, 2021 at 7:24 PM

    My sister is demonstrating all the eight signs of Alzheimer’s listed above. I have tried to discuss my concerns with her however when I do, she becomes extremely defensive and refuses to discuss any possibility of a problem with her memory. I am at a loss for what to do for her. Her primary care physician told her she felt she was paranoid and she refused to see her anymore. She lives alone and I am extremely concerned about discissions she makes concerning her finances. What should I do??

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    • Nicole Didyk, MD says

      March 22, 2021 at 4:11 PM

      What a stressful situation you’re in. It’s too bad that she’s fired her family MD, as that’s often a great route to go to express your concerns.

      In some regions, you can call Adult Protective Services and ask for a worker to be assigned to your sister’s case. Unless there’s serious self-neglect though, they may not be able to do very much.

      Dr. Kernisan’s new book is for children who are helping aging parents, but many of the issues the book covers could be applied to helping other family members too. The book provides advice on how to communicate with someone who’s living with dementia and resisting help.

      Reply

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