In This Episode:
Dr. K interviews Linda Fodrini-Johnson, MA MFT CMC, a past president of the National Association of Geriatric Care Managers and the founder of Eldercare Services in the San Francisco Bay Area. They discuss:
- How adult children can better approach aging parents, when there’s been concern about memory problems or financial transactions
- What is a geriatric care manager (also known as an aging life care professional), and how they help families address memory concerns
- How to find a geriatric care manager with the right counseling skills for your needs
- How to get free help and advice from geriatric care managers and trained aging professionals
- Why people often tell Linda they wish they’d gotten more help or information sooner
Related Episode:
002 – What to Do if You’re Worried About Someone’s Memory
Related Resources:
- Aging Life Care Association (formerly the National Association for Professional Geriatric Care Managers); click here to search for an expert near you.
- Eldercare Locator: use to find your local Area Agency on Aging, which can refer you to local resources
What if your client doesn’t trust her regular doctor?
Usually, if a person tells me she doesn’t trust her regular doctor, I try to find out more about what’s behind this. Was there a previous missed diagnosis? Do they just not seem to click?
I also try to determine whether the person has expressed other suspicions or concerns about people. Some older adults become a bit defensive or paranoid as they develop thinking problems.
Basically, I would try to figure out what is driving the client’s concerns about her doctor. The goal is to figure out how much it reflects on the doctor versus the client’s mental condition.
You can also suggest seeing a different doctor for a second opinion, or a “fresh start.”
My mom who lives in a retirement facility believes someone is stealing her jewelry, medications, & nightgowns among other things. The staff has done sweeps & has found some items hidden in unusual spots. She just wants us to believe her but its hard to logically do so. How do we handle her as she truly believes these things are happening?
You didn’t mention if your mom is living with dementia, but this type of change in thinking is often part of that condition. Dr. Kernisan has an excellent article about delusions here which you might find helpful. Generally, a good approach includes not trying to logically reorient the person to reality, but validate their perception and acknowledge how difficult it is for them to have this experience. Then try to distract with a favourite activity or topic.