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How We Diagnose Dementia: The Practical Basics to Know

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Dementia concept

“Doctor, do you diagnose dementia? Because I need someone who can diagnose dementia.”

A man asked me this question recently. He explained that his 86 year-old father, who lived in the Bay Area, had recently been widowed. Since then the father had sold his long-time home rather quickly, and was hardly returning his son’s calls.

The son wanted to know if I could make a housecall. Specifically, he wanted to know if his father has dementia, such as Alzheimer’s disease.

This is a reasonable concern to have, given the circumstances.

However, it’s not very likely that I — or any clinician — will be able to definitely diagnose dementia based a single in-person visit.

But I get this kind of request fairly frequently. So in this post I want to share what I often find myself explaining to families: the basics of clinical dementia diagnosis, what kind of information I’ll need to obtain, and how long the process can take.

Now, note that this post is not about the comprehensive approach used in multi-disciplinary memory clinics. Those clinics have extra time and staff, and are designed to provide an extra-detailed evaluation. This is especially useful for unusual cases, such as cognitive problems in people who are relatively young.

Instead, in this post I’ll be describing the pragmatic approach that I use in my clinical practice. It is adapted to real-world constraints, meaning it can be used in a primary care setting. (Although like many aspects of geriatrics, it’s challenging to fit this into a 15 minute visit.)

Does this older person have dementia, such as Alzheimer’s disease? To understand how I go about answering the question, let’s start by reviewing the basics of what it means to have dementia.

5 Key Features of Dementia

A person having dementia means that all five of the following statements are true:

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Q&A: How to Diagnose & Treat Mild Cognitive Impairment?

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Aging man

Q: I realize that I sometimes have difficulty connecting a name and a face.  I presume that this is mild cognitive impairment.

On researching the topic online, I find a variety of suggestions for alleviating it.  These include supplements (lipoic acid, vitamin E, omega 3s, curcumin), food choices (fish, vegetables, black and green teas), aerobic exercise, yoga, and meditation. 

Do these actually help with mild cognitive impairment? What’s been proven to work?

A: It’s common for older adults to feel they’re having trouble with certain memory or thinking tasks as they get older.

I can’t say whether it’s mild cognitive impairment (MCI) in your particular case. But we can review what is known about stopping or slowing cognitive changes in people diagnosed with MCI.

First, let’s start by reviewing what MCI is, and how it’s diagnosed. Then I’ll share some information on the approaches you are asking about, as well as other approaches for treating MCI.

What is Mild Cognitive Impairment?

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7 Common Brain-Slowing Anticholinergic Drugs Older Adults Should Use With Caution

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Want to keep your brain — or the brain of someone you love — as healthy as possible?

Then it’s essential to know which commonly used medications affect brain function.

In this article, I’ll go into details regarding a type of medication that I wish all older adults knew about: anticholinergic drugs.

 

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Addressing Medical, Legal, & Financial Advance Care Planning:
The Healthy Aging Checklist Part 6

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Power of attorney

This is the sixth and final post covering the Healthy Aging Checklist, a set of six core activities that will help any older adult maintain the best possible health while aging.

They are:

  • Promote brain health and emotional well-being.
  • Promote physical health.
  • Check for and address common aging health problems (such as falls, memory concerns, depression, incontinence, pain, isolation, polypharmacy).
  • Learn to optimize the management of any chronic conditions.
  • Get recommended preventive health services for older adults.
  • Address medical, legal, and financial advance care planning.

In this post, I’ll address the last item on the list: advance planning for medical, legal, and financial issues. This includes power of attorney documents, plus much more.

This is a big topic, and it’s not possible to cover everything you could or should do in a single article. You would need a book for that — I suggest three down below — plus it’s best to work with qualified professionals (healthcare providers, eldercare attorneys, and financial planners) before completing any legally binding paperwork.

But every day as I work, I see older adults and families whose health and well-being is being affected by the consequences of their planning — or lack of planning, as the case often is.

So in this post, I will share some practical information that should make it easier for you to address planning that covers some common age-related challenges:

  • The three key steps involved in all advance planning for aging
  • 5 common problems every older adult and family should consider planning for
  • 5 key steps for advanced planning in healthcare, and where to get a good free medical power of attorney (POA)
  • 4 key steps for advance planning for legal and financial issues, and what to know about general POAs
  • Tips for adult children, including what to do if you’re concerned about mental capacity or undue influence

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5 Types of Medication Used to Treat Sundowning & Difficult Dementia Behaviors

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

medication for Alzheimer's behavior

One of the greatest challenges, when it comes to Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias, is coping with sundowning and with difficult behaviors. 

These are symptoms beyond the chronic memory/thinking problems that are the hallmark of dementia. They include problems like:

  • Delusions, false accusations, paranoid behaviors, or irrational beliefs
  • Agitation (getting “amped up” or “revved up”) and/or aggressive behavior
  • Restless pacing or wandering
  • Disinhibited behaviors, which means saying or doing socially inappropriate things
  • Sleep disturbances

These are technically called “neuropsychiatric” symptoms, but regular people might refer to them as “acting crazy” symptoms. Or even “crazy-making” symptoms, as they do tend to drive family caregivers a bit nuts.

And when these behaviors happen in the late afternoon or early evening, it’s usually called “sundowning“. (In most cases, sundowning is triggered by fatigue; anticholinergic medications may cause sundowning symptoms as well.)

Because these behaviors are difficult and stressful for caregivers — and often for the person with dementia — people often ask if any medications can help.

The short answer is “Maybe.”

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10 Things to Know About Delirium

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Pop quiz: What aging health problem is extremely common, has serious implications for an older person’s health and wellbeing, and can often – but not always – be prevented?

It’s delirium. In my opinion, this is one of the most important aging health problems for older adults to be aware of. It’s also vital for family caregivers to know about this condition, since families can be integral to preventing and detecting delirium.

In this article, I’ll explain just what delirium is, and how it compares to dementia. Then I’ll share 10 things you should know, and what you can do.

What is Delirium

Delirium is a state of worse-than-usual mental confusion, brought on by some type of unusual stress on the body or mind. It’s sometimes referred to as an “acute confusional state,” because it develops fairly quickly (e.g., over hours to days), whereas mental confusion due to Alzheimer’s or another dementia usually develops over a long time.

The key symptom of delirium is that the person develops difficulty focusing or paying attention. Delirium also often causes a variety of other cognitive symptoms, such as memory problems, language problems, disorientation, or even vivid hallucinations. In most cases, the symptoms “fluctuate,” with the person appearing better at certain times and worse at other times, especially later in the day.

Delirium is usually triggered by a medical illness, or by the stress of hospitalization, especially if the hospitalization includes surgery and anesthesia. However, in people who have especially vulnerable brains (such as those with Alzheimer’s or another dementia), delirium can be provoked by medication side-effects or less severe illnesses.

It’s much more common than many people realize: about 30% of older adults experience delirium at some point during a hospitalization.

That confusion after surgery that older adults often experience? That’s delirium.

The way your elderly mother with dementia gets twice as confused when she has a urinary tract infection? That’s delirium too.

Or the common phenomenon of “ICU psychosis”? That too is delirium.

What Causes Delirium?

In older adults, delirium often has multiple causes and contributors. These can include:

  • Infection (including UTI, pneumonia, the flu, COVID)
  • Other serious medical illness (e.g. heart attack, kidney failure, stroke, and more)
  • Metabolic imbalances (e.g. abnormal blood levels of sodium, calcium, or other electrolytes)
  • Dehydration
  • Medication side-effects
  • Sleep deprivation
  • Uncontrolled pain
  • Sensory impairment (e.g. poor vision and hearing, which can worsen if the person is lacking their usual glasses or hearing aids)
  • Alcohol withdrawal

Delirium vs. Dementia

People often confuse delirium and dementia (such as Alzheimer’s disease), because both conditions cause confusion and appear superficially similar. Furthermore, people with dementia are actually quite prone to develop delirium. That’s because delirium is basically a reflection of the brain going haywire when it gets overloaded by the stress of illness or toxins, and brains with dementia get overloaded more easily.

In fact, the more vulnerable a person’s brain is, the less it takes to tip them into delirium. So a younger person generally has to be very very sick to become delirious. But a frail older person with Alzheimer’s might become delirious just from being stressed and sleep-deprived while in the hospital.

Why Delirium is Such an Important Problem

There are three major reasons why delirium is an important problem for us all to prevent, detect, and manage.

First, delirium is a sign of illness or stress on the body and mind. So if a person becomes delirious, it’s important to identify the underlying problems – such as an infection or untreated pain – and correct them, so that the person can heal and improve.

The second reason delirium is important is that a confused person is at higher risk for falls and injuries during the period of delirium.

The third reason is that delirium often causes serious consequences related to health and well-being.

In the short term, delirium increases the length of hospital stays, and has been linked to a higher chance of dying during hospitalization. In the longer term, delirium has been linked to worse health outcomes, such as declines in independence, and even acceleration of cognitive decline.

Now let’s cover 10 more important facts you should know about delirium, especially if you’re concerned about an aging parent or other older relative.

10 Things to Know About Delirium, and What You Can Do

1.Delirium is extremely common in aging adults.

Almost a third of adults aged 65 and older experience delirium at some point during a hospitalization, with delirium being even more common in the intensive care unit, where it’s been found to affect 70% of patients. Delirium is also common in rehabilitation units, with one study finding that 16% of patients were experiencing delirium.

Delirium is less common in the outpatient setting (e.g. home, assisted-living, or primary care office). But it still can occur when an older adults gets sick or is affected by medications, especially if the person has a dementia such as Alzheimer’s.

What to do: Learn about delirium, so that you can help your older loved ones reduce the risk, get help quickly if needed, and better understand what to expect if someone does develop delirium. You should be especially be prepared to spot delirium if your parent or loved one is hospitalized, or has a dementia diagnosis. Don’t assume this is a rare problem that probably won’t affect your family. For more on hospital delirium, see Hospital Delirium: What to know & do.

2. Delirium can make a person quieter.

Although people often think of delirium meaning as a state of agitation and or restlessness, many older delirious people get quieter instead. This is called hypoactive delirium. It’s still linked with difficulty focusing attention, fluctuating symptoms, and worse than usual thinking. It’s also linked with poor outcomes. But it’s of course harder for people to notice, since there’s little “raving” or restlessness to catch people’s attention.

What to do: Be alert to those signs of difficulty focusing and worse-than-usual confusion, even if your older person seems quiet and isn’t agitated. Tell the hospital staff if you think your relative may be having hypoactive delirium. In the hospital, it’s normal for older patients to be tired. It’s not normal for them to have a lot more difficulty than usual making sense of what you say to them.

3. Delirium is often missed by hospital staff.

Despite the fact that delirium is extremely common, it is often missed in hospitalized older adults, with some reports estimating it’s being missed 70% of the time. That’s because busy hospital staff will have trouble realizing that an older person’s confusion is new or worse-than-usual. This is especially true for people who either look quite old – in which case hospital staff may assume the person has Alzheimer’s – or have a diagnosis of dementia in their chart.

What to do: You must be prepared to speak up if you notice that your family member isn’t in his or her usual state of mind. Hypoactive delirium is especially easy for hospital staff to miss. Hospitals are trying to improve delirium prevention and detection, but we all benefit when families help out. Remember, no hospital person knows your older person the way that you do.

4. Delirium can be the only outward sign of a potentially life-threatening problem.

Although delirium can be brought on or worsened by “little things” such as sleep deprivation or untreated constipation, it can also be a sign of a very serious medical problem. For instance, older adults have been known to become delirious in response to urinary tract infections, pneumonia, and heart attacks.

In general, it tends to be older persons with dementia who are most likely to show delirium as the only outward symptom of a very serious medical illness. But whether or not your older relative has dementia, if you notice delirium, you’ll want to get a medical evaluation as soon as possible.

What to do: Again, if you notice new or worse-than-usual mental functioning, you must bring it up and get your older loved one medically evaluated without delay. For older adults who are at home or in assisted -living, you should call the primary care doctor’s office, so that a nurse or doctor can help you determine whether you need an urgent care visit versus an emergency room evaluation.

5. Delirium often has multiple underlying causes.

In older adults with delirium, we often end up identifying several problems that collectively might be overwhelming an older person’s mental resilience. Along with serious medical illnesses, common contributors/causes for delirium include medication side effects (especially medications that are sedating or affect brain function), anesthesia, blood electrolyte imbalances, sleep deprivation, lack of hearing aids and glasses, and uncontrolled pain or constipation. Substance abuse or withdrawal can also provoke delirium.

What to do: To prevent delirium, learn about common contributors and try to avoid them or manage them proactively. For instance, if you have a choice regarding where to hospitalize an older person, some hospitals have “acute care for elders” units that try to minimize sleep deprivation and other hospital-related stressors. If your older relative does develop delirium, realize that there is often not a single “smoking gun” when it comes to delirium. A good delirium evaluation will attempt to identify and correct as many factors as possible.

6. Delirium is diagnosed by clinical evaluation.

To diagnose delirium, a doctor first has to notice – or be alerted to – the fact that a person may not be in his or her usual state of mind. Experts recommend that doctors then use the Confusion Assessment Method (CAM), which describes four features that doctors must assess. Delirium can be diagnosed if a patient’s symptoms include “acute onset and fluctuating course,” “difficulty paying attention,” and then either “disorganized thinking” or “altered level of consciousness.”

Delirium cannot be diagnosed by lab tests or scans. However, if an older adult is diagnosed with delirium, doctors generally should order tests and review medications, in order to identify factors that have caused or worsened the delirium.

What to do: Again, the most important thing for you to do is to get help for your loved one if you notice worse-than-usual confusion or difficulty focusing. Although families have historically not had a major role in delirium diagnosis, delirium experts have developed a family version of the CAM (FAM-CAM), which is designed for non-clinicians and has been shown to help detect delirium.

7. Delirium is treated by identifying and reversing triggers, and providing supportive care.

Delirium treatment requires a care team to take a three-pronged approach.

  1. Health providers must identify and reverse the illness or problems provoking the delirium.
  2. They have to manage any agitation or restless behavior, which can be tricky since a fair number of sedating medications can worsen delirium.
    1. The safest approach is a reassuring presence (family is best, but hospitals sometimes also provide a “sitter”) to be with the person, plus improve the environment if possible (e.g. a room with a window and natural light).
    2. The once-popular practice of physically restraining agitated older adults has been shown to sometimes worsen delirium, and should be avoided if possible.
  3. The care team needs to provide general supportive care to help the brain and body recover.

What to do: The reassuring presence of family is often key to providing a supportive environment that promotes delirium recovery. You can also help by making sure your loved one has glasses and hearing aids, and by alerting the doctors if you notice pain or constipation. Ask the clinical team how you can assist, if restlessness or agitation are an issue. Bear in mind that physical restraints should be avoided, as there are generally safer ways to manage agitation in delirium.

8. It can take older adults a long time to fully recover from delirium.

Most people are noticeably better within a few days, once the delirium triggers have been addressed. But it can take weeks, or even months, for some aging adults to fully recover.

For instance, a study of older heart surgery patients found that delirium occurred in 46% of the patients. After 6 months, 40% of those who had developed delirium still hadn’t recovered to their pre-hospital cognitive abilities.

What to do: If your parent or someone you love is diagnosed with delirium, don’t be surprised if it takes quite a while for him or her to fully recover. It’s good to be prepared to offer extra help during this period of time. You can facilitate recovery by creating a restful recuperation environment that minimizes mental stress and promotes physical well-being.

9. Delirium has been associated with accelerated cognitive decline and with developing dementia.

This is unfortunate, but true, especially in people who already have Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia. A 2009 study found that in such persons, delirium during hospitalization is linked to a much faster cognitive decline in the following year. A 2012 study reached similar conclusions, estimating that cognition declined about twice as quickly after delirium in the hospital.

In older adults who don’t have dementia, studies have found that delirium increases the risk of later developing dementia.

What to do: Experts aren’t sure what can be done to counter this unfortunate consequence of delirium, other than to try to optimize brain well-being in general. (For this, I suggest avoiding risky medications, getting enough exercise and sleep, being socially and intellectually active, and avoiding future delirium if possible; learn more here.)

The main thing to know is that delirium has serious consequences, so it’s often worth it for a family to be careful about surgery in an older person, and it’s good to learn about delirium prevention (see below).

10. Delirium is preventable, although not all cases can be prevented.

Experts estimate that delirium is preventable in about 40% of cases. Preventive strategies are meant to reduce stress and strain on an older person, and also try to minimize delirium triggers, such as uncontrolled pain or risky medications.

In the hospital setting, programs such as the Hospital Elder Life Program (HELP) for Prevention of Delirium have been shown to work. For ideas on how families can help, see this family tip sheet from the Hospital Elder Life Program. For instance, families can help reorient a relative in the hospital, ensure that glasses and hearing aids are available, and provide a reassuring presence to counter the stress of the hospital setting.

Less is known about preventing delirium in the home setting. However, since taking anticholinergic medications (such as sedating antihistamines) has been linked with hospitalizations for confusion, you can probably prevent delirium by learning to spot risky medications your parent might be taking.

What to do: To prevent hospital delirium, carefully weigh the risks and benefits before proceeding with elective surgery. If your older loved one must be hospitalized, choose a facility using the HELP program or with an Acute Care for Elders unit if possible. Be sure to read HELP’s tips for families on preventing hospital delirium.

Remember, delirium is common and can be the only outward sign of a serious medical problem.

By educating yourself and helping your older loved ones be proactive about prevention, you can reduce the chance of harm from this condition.

And if you do notice symptoms of delirium, make sure to tell the doctors! This will help your parent get the evaluation and treatment that he or she needs.

Useful Online Resources Related to Delirium

Here are links to some of the resources I reference in the article:

  • A study (one of many) finding that delirium is linked to worse health outcomes in the elderly
  • A study of older adults in the Intensive Care Unit, finding that 43.5% had hypoactive delirium
  • An article finding that older patients do better when they are hospitalized in an “Acute Care for Elders” unit (a special hospital ward tailored towards protecting older adults from hospital complications; they are great!)
  • An explanation of the Confusion Assessment Method, which experts recommend doctors use to diagnose delirium
  • A description of the Family-CAM, which experts developed to help family caregivers detect delirium
  • A study finding that delirium accelerates cognitive decline in Alzheimer’s; a follow-up study finding that people with dementia decline twice as quickly after having delirium (!) is here.
  • Tips on how family caregivers can prevent delirium, from the Hospital Elder Life Program

Last but not least, for my previous posts on delirium:

  • Delirium: How Caregivers Can Protect Alzheimer’s Patients
  • Hospital Delirium: What to Know and Do
  • How to Maintain Brain Health: the IOM Report on Cognitive Aging

This article was reviewed and updated in January 2025. 

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7 Steps to Managing Difficult Dementia Behaviors
(Safely & Without Medications)

by Paula Spencer Scott

(This article is by my colleague Paula Spencer Scott, author of the book Surviving Alzheimer’s: Practical Tips and Soul-Saving Wisdom for Caregivers. I invited her to share an article on this topic, since many in our community are coping with dementia behaviors. — L. Kernisan)

The odd behaviors of Alzheimer’s and other dementias can be so frustrating and stressful for families.

I’m talking about the kinds of behaviors that try patience, fray relationships, and drive us in desperate search of help:

“First she thinks the caregiver is stealing her sunglasses and now she accused me of having an affair.”

“When I tried to help Dad wash up, he hit me.”

“My husband follows me so closely I can’t stand it. But if I go in another room he’ll wander out of the house.” 

“Mom started unbuttoning her shirt in the middle of the restaurant!”

“Just when I’m completely exhausted at the end of the day, he seems to get revved up. He keeps peeking out the windows, convinced that someone is trying to break in. Now he won’t sleep.”

A common approach to difficult behaviors is to go right to medicating them with tranquilizers, sedatives, or antipsychotics. But that’s risky and often not what’s best.

In fact, experts recommend trying behavior management first, and for good reasons: It tends to be more effective in the long run than “chemical restraints,” has no dangerous side effects, and leads to a better care relationship. But people often don’t know how to do this.

I’ve learned how.

I’ve lived through five close family members’ experiences with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. Lots of trial and error, and insights from dozens of top dementia experts (whose brains I’ve been lucky to pick as a journalist and dementia educator), got me through regular scenes with…

  • My father-in-law, who needed a walker to move yet spent hour after hour for several days straight hauling all his clothes and toiletries from his room to our driveway, insisting that his (imaginary) new wife was about to pick him up
  • My dad, a formerly sharp dresser who wore the same shirt and pants every day no matter how dirty
  • My grandmother, who insisted on going “home,” when she was home
  • And other relatives, in dozens of similar scenes.

In this article, I want to share what I wish someone had explained to me early on: the “Why-This, Try-This” approach to dealing with difficult behaviors.

This is a mental framework that can help you get unstuck from unproductive responses that get you nowhere or make things worse.

It can bring calm -– to both of you — whether the issue is verbal or physical aggression, agitation, confusion, wandering, disinhibition, delusions, hallucinations, or a restless or repetitive behavior (like pacing, shadowing, rummaging). It also works well with milder irritants like repetitive questions and indecision.

Then, I’ll boil down the Why-This, Try-This concept to a 7-step process you can use every time. These “7 R”s give you a basic platform for responding to any frustrating behavior:

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Q&A: Hospice in Dementia, Medications, & What to Do If You’re Concerned

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

hospice in Alzheimer's dementia

Q: Dear Dr. K,

With all the news about opioids and benzodiazepines, and their risk of death, I would love to hear your take on the use of these drugs in hospice.

We’ve had two family experiences now (my Mom and my Aunt) who were given these drugs right away when they went on hospice…without hospice trying anything else first that would be less dangerous. My Mom was up and about walking one day at her memory care facility, even laughing. The next day, when hospice put her on morphine and Ativan, she was in a coma. She died 13 days later without ever regaining consciousness. When I protested and asked why she wasn’t waking up, the hospice nurse said, “It’s not the drugs, it’s the disease.” (Mom had dementia.) The nurses wouldn’t let us give her fluids (“you don’t want your mother to aspirate, do you?”) or feed her (“you don’t want your mother to choke, do you?”).

With my Aunt, she had also been in the memory care facility and got to the point of needing a two-person assist. Her power of attorney (POA) was given the choice of moving my Aunt into a nursing home or bringing in hospice. Hospice immediately gave her morphine and Ativan, then backed off the Ativan and gave her morphine every two hours until she died 3 days later. 

Now the third sister, also with dementia, has been in hospice for two months and counting. She is lucid most days, eating/drinking, comfortable—all without the opioid/benzo drug combo, because of our experience.

How can family members identify a hospice that doesn’t use this troubling combination of drugs from the start, without first trying something less dangerous, to make a patient “comfortable”? 

A: Thanks for sending in this question. I’m very sorry to hear that your experiences with hospice have left you concerned.

It is indeed extremely common for hospice to use morphine and lorazepam (brand name Ativan) to treat end-of-life symptoms. That’s because many people on hospice are suffering from troubling symptoms that these medications can relieve, such as pain, shortness of breath, anxiety, and agitation.

Still, these medications are not always necessary. They are supposed to be prescribed and used as required to relieve the dying person’s symptoms, not by default. So the situation you describe with your mother and your aunt does sound potentially concerning. At a bare minimum, the hospice personnel should have done a better job of discussing their proposed care plan with your family.

Now let me be clear: I cannot say if the way they prescribed morphine and lorazepam was inappropriate or not, because it’s impossible for me to know the specifics of your mother and aunt’s medical situation.

Still, we can certainly review some basics about hospice care for people with Alzheimer’s and related dementias, as well as recommended best practices, when it comes to using opioids and benzodiazepine sedatives.

Here’s what I’ll cover:

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8 Behaviors to Take Note of if You Think Someone Might Have Alzheimer’s

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Have you been worried about an older person’s memory or thinking skills? If so, you’ve probably found yourself wondering if this could be Alzheimer’s, or another dementia.

What to do next? If you look online or ask people, the advice is generally this: tell the doctor.

This advice isn’t wrong, but it’s incomplete. Yes, you should tell the doctor. But you’ll dramatically improve your chances of getting to the bottom of things if you come to the doctor with useful information on what you’ve observed.

In fact, research has found that interviewing family members about the presence or absence of eight particular behaviors can be just as effective, when it comes to detecting possible Alzheimer’s, as certain office-based cognitive tests.

8 Alzheimer’s Behaviors to Track

For each of these behaviors, try to make note of the following:

  • Whether there’s been a decline or change compared to the way your parent used to be
  • Whether this seems to be due to memory and thinking, versus physical limitations such as pain, shortness of breath or physical disabilities
  • When you – or another person – first noticed problems, and what you observed
  • What kinds of problems you see your parent having now

If you don’t notice a problem in any of the following eight areas, make a note of this. (E.g., “No such problem noted.”) That way you’ll know you didn’t just forget to consider that behavior.

Have you noticed:

  1. Signs of poor judgment? This means behaviors or situations that suggest bad decisions. Examples include worrisome spending, or not noticing a safety issue others are concerned about.
  2. Reduced Interest in Leisure Activities? This means being less interested and involved in one’s usual favorite hobbies and activities. You should especially pay attention if there isn’t a physical health issue interfering with doing the activity.
  3. Repeating Oneself? Has your parent started repeating questions or stories more than he used to?
  4. Difficulty Learning to Use Something New? Common examples include having trouble with a new kitchen appliance or gadget. This can be a tricky one to decide on, given that gadgets become more complicated every year. But if you’ve noticed anything, jot it down.
  5. Forgetting the Year or Month? Especially once one stops working, it can be easy to lose track of the date or day of the week. But if you notice your parent forgetting the year or month, make a note of this.
  6. Difficulty Managing Money and Finances? Common examples include having trouble paying bills on time, struggling to balance the checkbook, or otherwise having more difficulty than one used to have managing finances.
  7. Problems with Appointments and Commitments? If you’ve noticed that your parent is having more trouble keeping track of appointments and plans, make note of this.
  8. Daily Struggles with Memory or Thinking? It’s normal for older adults to take a little longer to remember things, since many brain functions do slow a bit with aging. But it seems that your parent often can’t remember things that happened, or otherwise seems to be more confused with thinking, make note of this.

For more on diagnosing Alzheimer’s and other dementias

  • If you’re worried that your older relative might have dementia, I recommend you learn more here: How We Diagnose Dementia: The Practical Basics to Know
  • My book, “When Your Aging Parent Needs Help“, also comes with worksheets to help you check for signs of dementia, a handy checklist of what information to bring to the doctors, and more.
  • In this Youtube video I share 10 early warning signs of Alzheimer’s Disease that often catch my attention, and what to do if you’ve noticed these warning signs.

  • In this Youtube video, I cover 21 signs and behaviors that families sometimes assume are “normal aging,” but in fact are usually signs of a brain health disorder. It includes the 8 behaviors listed in this article, and many more.

Remember, being proactive usually leads to better results and less stress overall!

Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: alzheimer's, dementia, memory

Delirium: How Caregivers Can Protect Alzheimer’s Patients

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

This week’s Q & A call was about how to better manage health and healthcare issues, when you’re taking care of someone with a dementia such as Alzheimer’s.

Most of the caregivers’ questions were about delirium. This is the state of worse-than-usual confusion that people can develop when they are sick or under serious stress.

I love talking to Alzheimer’s caregivers about delirium, because this is a really common problem that family caregivers absolutely can do something about!

The key is to know that people with dementia are especially prone to get delirium when they fall ill (especially in the hospital). And then you’ll want to know the basics on how to spot this problem, and how to get the doctors to address it properly.

A fact I wish more caregivers of elders knew: delirium can be the only obvious sign of a potentially serious health problem, such as a heart attack, a urinary tract infection, or a pneumonia. (Especially when it comes to older people with Alzheimer’s, they often don’t voice focused complaints the way younger people do.)

The trouble is, even though delirium is very common in older adults, studies have shown that it’s often missed by doctors and nurses. This is a important problem in healthcare, for three key reasons:

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: alzheimer's, delirium, dementia

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