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Wondering whether you should worry? Having trouble getting parents to accept help? Overwhelmed by challenges and concerns?

This part of the site is especially for you! It includes our hand-picked articles, tips, & resources for people helping older parents.

4 Types of Brain-Slowing Medication to Avoid if You’re Worried About Memory

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

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A few years ago, while I was at a family celebration, several people mentioned memory concerns to me.

Some were older adults concerned about the memory of their spouses. Some were adult children concerned about the short-term memory of their parents. And a few were older adults who have noticed some slowing down of their own memory.

“But you know, nothing much that can be done at my age,” remarked one man in his eighties.

Wrong. In fact, there is a lot that can and should be done, if you notice memory loss or thinking changes in yourself or in another older adult. And you should do it because it ends up making a difference for brain health and quality of life.

First among them: identify medications that make brain function worse.

This is not just my personal opinion. Identifying and reducing such medications is a mainstay of geriatrics practice. Among other reasons, we do find that in some people, certain medications are causing memory loss symptoms — or other cognitive symptoms — to be worse.

And the expert authors of the National Academy of Medicine report on Cognitive Aging agree: in their Action Guide for Individuals and Families, they list “Manage your medications” among their “Top 3 actions you can take to help protect your cognitive health as you age.”

Unfortunately, many older adults are unaware of this recommendation. And I can’t tell you how often I find that seniors are taking over-the-counter or prescription medications that dampen their brain function. Sometimes it’s truly necessary but often it’s not.

What especially troubles me is that most of these older adults — and their families — have no idea that many have been linked to developing dementia, or to worsening of dementia symptoms. So it’s worth spotting them whether you are concerned about mild cognitive impairment or caring for someone with full-blown Alzheimer’s dementia.

Every older adult and family should know how to optimize brain function. Avoiding problem medications — or at least using them judiciously and in the lowest doses necessary — is key to this.

And don’t give anyone a pass when they say “Oh, I’ve always taken this drug.” Younger and healthier brains experience less dysfunction from these drugs. That’s because a younger brain has more processing power and is more resilient. So drugs that aren’t such problems earlier in life often have more impact later in life. Just because you took a drug in your youth or middle years doesn’t mean it’s harmless to continue once you are older.

You should also know that most of these drugs affect balance, and may increase fall risk. So there’s a double benefit in identifying them, and minimizing them.

Below, I share the most commonly used drugs that you should look out for if you are worried about memory loss.

Featured Download: Get my free list of medications that can affect memory and thinking in aging adults. This handy PDF includes all the medications I usually check for.  Click here to download.

The Four Most Commonly Used Types of Medications That Dampen Brain Function

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Filed Under: Aging health, Featured, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: alzheimer's, brain health, dementia, medications, memory

Q&A: What to do if your aging parent becomes rude & resistant

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Aging Parent with Adult Child

Q: My loving, Jewish mother is 92 and has turned into a rude, abusive foul-mouthed woman who I no longer recognize.

She’s in relatively good health and amazingly lives in the same house I grew up in. She has an aide during the day. She won’t leave the house, treats the aide poorly and last weekend cursed out my very patient spouse. We’ve been getting 5 calls a day such as ” I’m having a heart attack; no one will tell me whether recycling comes today”! 

I know she has early signs of dementia. Her cardiologist tells me not to take it to heart and this is not the same woman who raised me.  She won’t go to the JCC adult programs, complains about being lonely at night, yet hangs up on me when I tell her we can get an aide at night or sell the home and let her live in a facility with women her age, etc. She threatens to call the Police if someone comes to her home at night. I have a POA but don’t want to rob her of her independence at 92. I try to tell her to speak nicely to the aides, myself, my spouse, but she says ” I don’t remember or I must have reacted to something someone did or said.”

I feel guilty as I’m not spending as much time with her as I would like, but it’s a matter of survival. Jewish guilt is thrown about with impunity and I can’t tell whether she’s being manipulative and obsessing over bullshit ( “oh my God the outside light may burn out tonight” ) or she really can’t control herself. Her aide  is a lovely human being but my mom orders her around like a slave.  Who is this woman? I’m torn, anguishing over what to do and am doing nothing but try to correct her inappropriate behavior and language. I wanted to take her to a geriatric psychiatrist but she refused to go. Medication to calm her down is dangerous per the MD as she could fall, etc. 

What should I do? I’m at my wits end. 

Dr. K’s answer:

Wow, difficult situation but unfortunately not uncommon.

You say your mother has early signs of dementia, and it is true that “personality changes” can be due to an underlying type of dementia, such as fronto-temporal dementia or Alzheimer’s, especially if a family notices other changes in memory or thinking abilities.

But it doesn’t sound like your mother’s been clinically evaluated for dementia, and you don’t say whether this has been brought up with her primary care doctor.

How to Get Signs of Dementia (or Personality Changes) Evaluated

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles, Managing relationships, Q&A Tagged With: dementia, dementia diagnosis

Q&A: What to Do About Unintentional Weight Loss

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Q: My 88-year-old father lives in his own home about 100 miles from us. He’s been living alone since my mother died five years ago. I thought he looked rather thin last time we saw him. I’m starting to feel worried about his nutrition. Should I be concerned? Would you recommend he start drinking a supplement such as Boost or Ensure?

A: This question comes up a lot for families. It is indeed very common for older adults to experience unexplained weight loss at some point in late life.

The brief answer is that yes, you should be concerned. But I wouldn’t recommend you jump to purchasing Boost or Ensure.

Now, in most cases, some nutritional supplementation is in order. But before focusing on this, you should first get help figuring out why your father is losing weight.

For doctors, unintentional weight loss is a major red flag when it comes to the health of an older person.

So in geriatrics, we usually recommend that an older person — or their caregivers — monitor weight regularly. This enables us to spot weight loss sooner rather than later.

Once we’ve spotted unexplained weight loss, the next step is to figure out what might be causing it. And then we’re in a better position to recommend a treatment plan, which might well include a nutritional supplement.

In this post, I’ll go over each of these steps in more detail.

Why you should monitor for unintentional weight loss

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles, Q&A Tagged With: weight loss

How to Choose the Safest Over-the-Counter Painkiller for Older Adults

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

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Q: My 88-year old mother often complains of various aches and pains. What is the safest over-the-counter painkiller for her to take? Aren’t some of them bad for your liver and kidneys?

A: Frequent aches and pains are a common problem for older adults.

If your mother has been complaining, you’ll want to make sure she gets a careful evaluation from her doctor. After all, frequent pain can be a sign of an important underlying health problem that needs attention. You’re also more likely to help your mom reduce her pain if you can help her doctors identify the underlying causes of her pain.

That said, it’s a good idea to ask what over-the-counter (OTC) pain relievers are safest for older people.

That’s because improper use of OTC painkiller tablets is actually a major cause of harm to older adults.

So let me tell you what OTC pain relievers geriatricians usually consider the safest, and which very common group of painkillers can cause serious side-effects in aging adults. I’ve also made a Youtube video cover the topics mentioned in this article: 

What’s the safest OTC painkiller for an aging parent?

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles, Q&A Tagged With: medication safety, medications, pain

8 Things to Have the Doctor Check After an Aging Person Falls

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

If you want to prevent dangerous falls in an aging adult, here’s one of the very best things you can do: be proactive about getting the right kind of medical assessment after a fall.

Why? There are three major reasons for this:

  • A fall can be a sign of a new and serious medical problem that needs treatment. For instance, an older person can be weakened and fall because of illnesses such as dehydration, or a serious urinary tract infection.
  • Older adults who have fallen are at higher risk for a future fall. Although it’s a good idea for any older person to be proactive about identifying and reducing fall risk factors, it’s vital to do this well after a fall.
  • Busy doctors may not be thorough unless caregivers are proactive about asking questions. Most doctors have the best intentions, but studies have shown that older patients often don’t get recommended care. By being politely proactive, you can make sure that certain things aren’t overlooked (such as medications that worsen balance).

All too often, a medical visit after a fall is mainly about addressing any injuries that the older person may have suffered.

Obviously, this is very important; one doesn’t want to miss a fracture or other serious injury in an older person.

However, if you want to help prevent future falls, it’s also important to make sure the doctors have checked on all the things that could have contributed to the fall.

This is really key to preventing falls in an aging adult. Even if you’re pretty sure the fall was just due to tripping and stumbling, a good evaluation can uncover issues that made those trips and stumbles more likely.

In this article, I’ll list eight key items that you can make sure the doctors check on, after an older person falls. This will help you make sure that you (or your older loved one) get a thorough work-up, and can reduce the chance of future serious falls.

This list is partly based on the American Geriatrics Society’s Clinical Practice Guidelines on Preventing Falls. 

 

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Filed Under: Aging health, Featured, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: fall prevention, falls

5 Ways to Help Someone Age in Place

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Aging Farmer

People of all older ages often tell me they hope to age in place.

Meaning, they want to be able to remain in their home and community, even as time brings changes to life, health, and abilities.

These days, many older people do end up moving, often reluctantly. And this doesn’t have to be a bad thing; I find that after a period of adjustment, many aging adults enjoy their new homes and communities. But no one likes the thought that they might *have* to move, because it’s become too difficult or risky to remain in one’s preferred home.

Now, as for all things in life and health and aging, it’s impossible to guarantee the outcome we want. But, as in almost all things in life and health and aging, there’s plenty you can do to put the odds in your favor, when it comes to aging in place.

The key is to understand what often interferes with remaining in one’s home. Then you can think about how to anticipate, prevent, or work around many of those challenges to aging in place.

In this post, I’ll describe some of the common reasons that I see older adults struggling to age in place. Then I’ll share 5 specific things you can do, to help an older person better age in place.

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Deprescribing: How to Be on Less Medication for Healthier Aging

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

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Have you ever wondered whether you — or your older relative — might be taking too many medications?

You’re certainly right to ask yourself this. I consider this for all my own patients, and wish every doctor would.

In part, this is because over the years, I’ve had countless older adults express their worries and frustrations, related to their prescription drugs. These include:

  • The hassle of having so many pills to take
  • Worries about side-effects
  • Frustration with medication costs
  • Wondering whether a given medication is the “right” one for you, or for your condition
  • The sneaky feeling that some of those medications don’t seem to help much
  • The hassle of coordinating a long medication list among multiple doctors

Needless to say, all of this is not so good for quality of life while aging.

And unlike some things that people worry about, these concerns are all actually justified, given what geriatricians know about older adults and medications.

So if you’ve ever experienced the above worries — or if you (or your older relative) are taking more than five medications — then I want to make sure you know about a process that can improve or resolve all those problems that older adults have with their medications.

It’s called deprescribing, and it’s really essential to optimizing the health of an older person.

In this article, I’ll cover what every older adult and family caregiver should know about it:

  • What is deprescribing?
  • Why is deprescribing especially important for older adults?
  • How does deprescribing work?
  • What medications are most important for older adults to consider deprescribing?
  • How can older adults and family caregivers get doctors to address deprescribing?

This way, you’ll have a better shot at what everyone wants when it comes to medication:

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: deprescribing, medication safety, medications, Medications to avoid with seniors

Atrial Fibrillation in Aging:
What to Know & How to Treat

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

The human heart is often described as a pump, but there’s much more to it: it also has a special electrical system that regulates and coordinates heartbeats.

Abnormal heartbeats are called arrhythmias, and probably the most common one is atrial fibrillation, a condition that affects millions of older adults and plays a major role in stroke, disability, and hospitalization.

Some people with atrial fibrillation come to medical attention because they feel unwell—short of breath, fatigued, or aware that their heart is racing. Others feel fine and are surprised when a clinician — or maybe even their smartwatch — tells them they have an irregular heartbeat. Families are often left trying to understand a diagnosis that sounds ominous and a set of treatment options that can feel confusing or even frightening.

To help clarify what matters most, I spoke with cardiologist and electrophysiologist Cara Pellegrini, MD, about atrial fibrillation in aging. Here’s what to know, including what atrial fibrillation is, why it matters, and how to think through treatment and stroke prevention—especially when frailty, falls, or cognitive impairment are part of the picture.

Dr. Kernisan: What exactly is atrial fibrillation?

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Beyond Alzheimer’s:
Common Types of Dementia in Aging

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Are you dealing with a diagnosis of dementia?

If so, you might be wondering what type of dementia you are dealing with. Or, perhaps you’ve heard someone say it’s important to find out what type of dementia it is.

It’s true that there certainly are different types of dementia, and it’s often said that the most common one is Alzheimer’s disease.

But actually, especially as people get to be age 80 or older, by far the most common type of dementia is mixed dementia. Meaning, the dementia symptoms are caused by a mix of types.

If you are dealing with memory loss or other forms of cognitive decline, it’s a good idea to know the basics about the different types of dementia.

In this article, I’ll cover:

  • What is dementia and what’s the difference between Alzheimer’s and dementia
  • The most common types of dementia in older adults
  • When it might be important to find out what type of dementia it is
  • My usual approach to using dementia type to help patients

You can also watch my video covering Common Types of Dementia in Aging:

What is dementia?

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles

Top 10 Checklist for Better Health & Aging in 2026

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Aging Parents To Do List

Do you find yourself taking stock and setting goals around the time of New Year’s?

It is indeed an excellent time to reflect on the past year. 

And although one can set goals at any time of year, the start of the calendar year is a time that seems to inspire many people to think about their health and how to thrive over the coming year.

If better health while aging is important to you, here are my top ten suggestions for the coming year. 

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Filed Under: Aging health, Geriatrics For Caregivers Blog, Helping Older Parents Articles Tagged With: healthy aging

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