Helping Older Parents Articles

Wondering whether you should worry? Having trouble getting parents to accept help? Overwhelmed by challenges and concerns?

This part of the site is especially for you! It includes our hand-picked articles, tips, & resources for people helping older parents.

Choosing & Using a Home Blood Pressure Monitor, & What to Ask the Doctor

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

In another article, I’ve explained the key reasons that I recommend older adults and their caregivers have a blood pressure (BP) monitor at home.

To very briefly recap:

Many of the problems of older adults (including falls) can be related to blood pressure.
Home blood pressure measurements can help:
- evaluate for drops in blood pressure with standing (a common cause of dizziness in elders)
- check for serious illness, since these often (but not always) cause the blood pressure and pulse to be very different from usual
- follow-up on blood pressure after a change in medication, which can help doctors and families figure out the best medication dosing for an older person much faster. This is safer for seniors.

In this post, I’ll share some tips on choosing and using a home BP monitor.

And don’t worry: I won’t tell you that you have to plan on checking every day for the rest of your lives. Although there are times when it’s great to check daily — like the week after a change in medication — the most important thing is to have a good BP monitor at home and know how to use it at least occasionally.

I also share some more guidance and advice in my Youtube video on high blood pressure here:

Tips for choosing a home blood pressure monitor

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Cognitive Impairment in Aging: 10 Common Causes & 10 Things the Doctor Should Check

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Have you been worried about an older person’s memory or thinking abilities?

Maybe your parent has seemed more confused recently. Or you may have noticed that your aging spouse is repeating herself, or struggling to do things that didn’t use to pose much of a problem.

Or you may have noticed false accusations, or irrational worries getting out of control.

These are very common concerns, and they often lead to questions such as:

Is this normal aging or something more significant?
What is wrong?
Could this be Alzheimer’s? Or some other form of dementia?
Can these memory problems be treated or reversed?
What should we do about this??

The answer to the last question is this: if you are worried about memory or thinking, then you should seek out some kind of medical evaluation.

That’s because when families worry about an older person’s cognitive abilities, there often are some underlying health issues affecting the mind’s function.

Those need to be detected, and treated if at all possible. So, you’ll need to request help from a health professional, and in this article, I’ll explain what that initial help should consist of. This way you’ll know what to expect, and what the doctor might ask you about.

Technically, these kinds of problems are called “cognitive impairment.” This is a broad term that means some kind of problem or difficulty with one’s memory, thinking, concentration, and other functions of the conscious brain, beyond what might be expected due to normal “cognitive aging.”

(For more on “cognitive aging” and what types of changes are considered normal aging, see this article: 6 Ways that Memory & Thinking Change with Normal Aging, & What to Do About This.)

Cognitive impairment — which is also called “cognitive decline” — can come on suddenly or gradually, and can be temporary or more permanent. It may or may not keep getting slowly worse; it all depends on the underlying cause or causes.

In this article, I’ll share with you the more common causes of cognitive impairment in older adults.

I’ll then share a list of 10 things that should generally be done, during a preliminary medical evaluation for cognitive decline in an older adult.

You can also watch a subtitled video version of this information below.

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3 Ways Home Blood Pressure Monitors Help Older Adults

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

how to check BP at home If I had to recommend one key piece of healthcare equipment that older adults & caregivers should have at home, it would be this: a good home blood pressure (BP) monitor.

Why? Because BP measurements (and pulse measurements, which machines check at the same time) are an incredibly useful tool when it comes to assessing and optimizing an older person’s health and well-being. This is true even for those older people who aren’t being treated for hypertension (chronic high BP).

As I’d love for more older adults and families to understand how home BP monitors can help them, in this article I’ll explain how home BP monitors can be helpful specifically for older adults. (And then see my related article here: Choosing & Using a Home Blood Pressure Monitor, & What to Ask the Doctor .)

3 ways a home blood pressure monitor can help you

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Helping Older Parents

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

3 Ways to Prevent Injury From a Fall
(Plus 3 Ways That Don’t Work as Well as You’d Think)

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Worried about falls in an older person?

You’re right to be concerned, especially if the older person has already experienced a fall. Research suggests that falling once doubles your chance of falling again.

And falls, as everyone knows, can cause life-changing injuries. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reports that:

One out of five falls causes a serious injury such as broken bones or a head injury
Each year at least 300,000 older people are hospitalized for hip fractures
More than 95% of hip fractures are caused by falling, usually by falling sideways
Falls are the most common cause of traumatic brain injuries

For these reasons and more, preventing falls is a major focus of preventive care for older adults, and is a big part of what we do in geriatrics. (Learn more about how we do this in this article: Why Older People Fall & How to Reduce Fall Risk.)

But if we want to protect older people from the potentially devastating consequences of falls, it’s not enough to help them reduce falls.

We also need to think about how we can reduce the likelihood of injury from a fall.

In this article, I’ll share with you three approaches that can help reduce fall-related injuries.

Then I’ll address two other approaches that are sometimes tried, but are less likely to help.

3 ways to prevent fractures and other injuries related to falls

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Respiratory Syncytial Virus: What to Know About RSV & RSV Vaccines in Aging

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

It used to be that influenza was the main respiratory virus that got a lot of attention during the wintertime.

But now there’s another one that’s become known for its potential to cause serious illness in older adults: respiratory syncytial virus (RSV).

Unlike COVID-19, which only appeared in the U.S. in 2020, RSV has actually been around for decades. However, until recently, many doctors treated it mostly as a pediatric concern, because RSV is a top cause of hospitalization in young children.

This is now changing. RSV is actually similar to the flu, or even COVID, in that it’s older adults (along with young children) who are most likely to get dangerously ill.

Hence, this is a respiratory virus that all older adults should know about.

Furthermore, in 2023, the FDA approved the first RSV prevention shots for people aged 60 or older. As of 2024, there are three RSV vaccines licensed for use in the US, for adults ages 60 and older.

So in this article, I’ll explain what is RSV, and what older adults and families should know about it.

What is RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus)?

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Depression in Aging:
Diagnosis & Treatment When the Golden Years are Blue

by Nicole Didyk, MD

Most of us can relate to feeling sad or blue, sometimes for days at a time. It may be in response to a major life event like losing a job, a break-up, or as part of grief. These sad feelings can lead us to feel less interested in enjoyable activities, make us lose our appetite or disrupt sleep.

Although research shows that people often become happier as they age, sad feelings are also very natural and can be associated with some of the typical transitions and changes of aging. But clinical depression, from a medical point of view, is something different, and should not be considered a normal part of getting older.

In this article, I’ll explain the most important things to know about late-life depression, including:

What’s different about depression in later life?
What are the symptoms of depression and how is clinical depression diagnosed (especially in an older person who may also have medical illnesses that can mimic depression symptoms)?
What does testing for depression look like?
What treatments are recommended for older adults with clinical depression?
What you can do if you’re worried that someone is depressed, and how to help someone with depression.

In an upcoming article, I’ll also cover the special considerations and challenges when it comes to diagnosing and treating depression in those living with dementia, which is a common scenario in my practice as a geriatrician.

Depression in Later Life

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How to Prevent Falls: 4 Proven Approaches To Ask Your Doctor About

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Worried about falls in an older parent or relative? If so, do you know if their doctor has considered the most useful fall prevention approaches?

Fall risk can be reduced, but it generally takes some thought and effort. That’s in part because most older adults have multiple factors making them vulnerable to falls.

In a related article on this site, I’ve explained that best fall prevention plans involve identifying an older person’s particular risks — especially risks related to health conditions — and trying to counter those.

So for instance, if an older person has diabetes and is having frequent moments of low blood sugar (also known as hypoglycemia), then to reduce falls, addressing the hypoglycemia is as important, if not more, as starting an exercise program.

In other words, I always recommend that aging adults and families learn to tailor their fall prevention plans. You want to focus on what are the most important modifiable risk factors for that individual person.

That said, over the years I’ve noticed that there are four approaches that I find myself using over and over again, in almost all my patients who have had repeated falls.

These four approaches are used often by geriatricians, but much less often by busy primary care doctors. Unless, that is, a proactive family asks about them.

My Four Most-Used Fall Prevention Approaches

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How You Can Help Someone Stop Ativan

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

Have you heard of Ativan (generic name lorazepam), and of the risks of benzodiazepines drugs in older adults? Is an older person you care for taking prescription medication for sleep, anxiety, or “nerves”?

Would you like an easy, practical tool to help someone stop a drug whose risks often outweigh the benefits?

If so, I have good news: a wonderful patient education tool has been created by a well-respected expert in geriatrics, Dr. Cara Tannenbaum. Best of all, a randomized trial has proved that this tool works.

As in, 62% older adults who received this tool — a brochure with a quiz followed by key information — discussed stopping the medication with a doctor or pharmacist, and 27% were successful in discontinuing their benzodiazepine. The brochure includes a handy illustrated guide on slowly and safely weaning a person off these habit-forming drugs.

This is big news because although experts widely agree that long-term benzodiazepine use should be avoided in older adults, getting doctors and patients to work together to stop has been tough. It is, after all, generally easier to start a tranquilizer than to stop it!

But through a patient education brochure, Dr. Tannenbaum’s team was able to make this tricky process much more doable for older adults, their families, and their doctors.

Why it’s important to try to stop lorazepam & other benzodiazepines

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5 Things to Know about Aging Parents & Financial Decline

by Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH

You probably already know that many older adults develop problems managing finances as they age.

Now how would you answer the questions below:

Has your aging parent planned for a decline in financial abilities?
Are you prepared to detect signs of a financial decline?
Do you know what to do if you do notice problems with finances?

Many people, even the ones who are caring and well-informed, will often answer “no” to these questions.

But this post will equip you to start answering yes. And I want you to be able to answer yes, because declines in the ability to manage finances are very common among older adults, and often causes serious health and life problems.

The trouble, of course, is that financial decline is uncomfortable for older adults and their families to think about. Managing money, after all, is one of the ways we maintain autonomy and control over our lives.

So nobody likes to confront the fact that our ability to manage money will — in all likelihood — someday decline. (Research suggests that even aging adults who don’t develop dementia often experience declines in financial ability.) And families are understandably squeamish about monitoring an older relative’s financial abilities.

Fortunately, a little education and guidance can make it much easier to be more proactive about this tough topic.

In this post, I’ll cover

Five warning signs of financial decline
Five important things to know about aging & finances
How to protect aging parents from financial problems
What to do if your aging parent is having trouble managing their finances

I’ll also cover some ways that geriatricians and other healthcare providers can help, both to reduce declines in financial ability and to properly evaluate them when they occur.

5 Warning Signs of Financial Decline

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Helping Older Parents Articles

Tips for choosing a home blood pressure monitor

3 ways a home blood pressure monitor can help you

3 ways to prevent fractures and other injuries related to falls

What is RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus)?

Depression in Later Life

My Four Most-Used Fall Prevention Approaches

Why it’s important to try to stop lorazepam & other benzodiazepines

5 Warning Signs of Financial Decline

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