This was the question that I emailed last month to the readers subscribed to Geriatrics for Caregivers.
I asked because in order to provide truly useful information on this website, I felt I should check in and learn more about what you’re finding especially challenging.
In response to my inquiry, I received a number of replies, I learned quite a lot, and as usual, I found myself inspired by the remarkable efforts you are undertaking.
Now, I hadn’t initially been planning to share people’s answers on the blog. But when a reader wrote to me asking about the results of the “survey,” I realized that many of you may be wondering: “What do other people find most frustrating about helping an aging loved one?”
Below, you’ll find a series of quotes from the responses. I hope you find them as enlightening and inspiring as I did.
[Many thanks to the respondents for giving me permission to share their insights!]
What Readers Say is Hard About Helping an Older Loved One
“My biggest problem with dealing with my aging parents (both in their 80s) is the delicate “dance” of trying to help them while still respecting their own right to make choices for themselves…My mom had some sudden health issues this summer which, now that they’re pretty much handled, have left her suddenly aged and also with some minor short-term memory problems…It’s tough to know how far to push or how much to do for her…I’m also having to tread lightly about suggesting things [my father] hasn’t thought of…In short, it’s a little tough dealing with the reversal of roles when they aren’t totally reversed.” [Read more…]